Archive-name: Miscell/erosia08.txt Archive-author: David P. Thomas Archive-title: Erosian Theory and Practice Erosian Doctrine #1 ( A dictate for all Erosians to learn from. The need for communications, knowledge and non-agressive sexuality ) Amongst Erosian Theorist, communications must remain open. Understanding is the essence of knowledge, and lack of communication breeds darkness and speculation. Contempt for the lifestyle of another or the specific likes and dislikes of anothers sexual tastes is bred from two parents. The first is ignorance and closemindedness. This stems from the inability of the normal person to view openly individual tastes as their own. From the beginning of time, man has grouped together in ignorance to destroy what he did not understand. With our abilities and foresight today, we as a race should long have accepted what we do not understand, and seek to nurture it and to learn from it. However, we still hunt down and kill those lifestyles which do not meet with the approval of certain religions, ethical values, and other social restraints. However, if we as a race have not learned to nurture the unknown, we at least should have learned how to leave it alone and allow those better equipped to deal with it handle, work with and enjoy its benefits. However, society at large has done neither, and as a rule 'witch hunts' still exist, seeking to route out and destroy what is not understood. Erosian Theory is seeking not to change the minds or ways of society as a whole. We instead are focusing on ourselves. Taking the belief that change is best from within, we are seeking to come to terms within ourselves and within our group, focusing upon our individual sexuality, and working to building a guilt free, sexually understood inner community. I believe that if a group of people come together and support the concept of Erosian Theory, small, internal groups within the community will be formed, where members can receive feedback on their individual guilt concepts concerning sex, and live under a liberal guideline concerning sex. If we strip away the layers of false information concerning sexual practice and it's purported deviant side, and merely assume the rules found in the Code of Conduct, we can pursue doggedly our individual sexual interests, and have a strong belief to fall back on when surrounded by feelings of guilt. In a sense, we will strip away within our minds, those ideas which cause us guilt, and replace them with the concepts of the Erosian Code of Conduct, a belief parallel to standard practice thinking on sexuality. Another factor, and one of the parents of contempt for our type of sexuality, is the preditory factor. This is the factor that causes women to see men as animals, and causes alternate lifestyle sexuality (see Code of Practice) to be deemed in our society as sick. The man who is constantly 'coming on' to women, overtly trying for sexual gratification, is seen for what he is; an abusive, using chauvinistic male who has only his own interests at heart. At the same time the person who molests children or helpless adults, or the person who forces his sexuality on another creates that image that says "We as normal adults will not perform the type of acts that someone as deviant as that man did". This convicts the act, and not the attitude or atmosphere it was performed under. Obviously this sounds well and good to you. You say to yourself, " I'm not a sicko. I may have my own interests, but I don't rape people or molest kids." And you're right, but you may be guilty of forced sexuality. I can remember the first time I went into an adult bookstore. It was one of those with the booth films in the back, and not knowing better, I went in, sat down, and dropped a quarter in the slot. Seconds later, someone entered the other booth next to the one I was in and reached through the hole (cut between the two) and attempted to fondle me. Now, whether I was desiring of that action or not, someone was attempting to push their sexuality on me. But I understood the atmosphere of the place, and said in a clear voice, "NO, I'm not interested." Now, had the action stopped at this point, everything would have been okay, but the guy took no heed of my request, and the hand returned. Sadly enough, I had to make my point strongly. Now, the above example should teach you two things about Erosian Theory. First - We do not encourage sexual activity in any way where one person involved feels uncomfortable or expresses a lack of interest in the activity. No means No ! Second - It is extremely dangerous, and only harmful to Erosian Theory & Practice to goad, coerce, irriate, and attempt unsuccessfully frequently to gain a sexual liason with an unwilling partner. Communications is essential for Erosian Theory and Practice to work. Without it, we are stranded within ourselves, and we lose the sounding board of the Erosian Community. Never feel guilt concerning your lifestyle, and respect others and help to remove any guilt from theirs. --